Fashion is an ever-evolving landscape, with trends coming and going at the speed of light. When reflecting on the styles over the decades, if you are like me, you remember the styles that made you want to be an adult; but as an adult it makes you feel outdated. But are they really outdated or do the constant fads make you feel that way? Let’s be honest some styles were good because they were timeless and simple. But as new designers emerged, so did new styles and ideas of style. And some of those styles are not for everyone. For women over 35, this constant flux can especially feel overwhelming. But don’t worry, there is an opportunity... a fantastic opportunity to refine and embrace a personal style that transcends fleeting fads. And here is how you can identify and cultivate a style that is uniquely your own.
Understand Your Body and Lifestyle
The first step in identifying your style is understanding your body shape and lifestyle needs. Look at what flatters your figure and fits your daily routine. Although fashion today has you thinking we are the same shape and size, as if one style fits all, that is incorrect. Body shapes are different; there are those that are either Pear, Round, Rectangle, Triangle, Inverted Triangle, or even Hourglass shaped. So you want to choose clothing that will enhance your curves. Here’s a secret… the reason why your favorite celebrity always looks so good in everything is because they have a wardrobe stylist that is always looking for styles that gets them close to the hourglass shape. Styles that create curves are what flatters. No matter the contour of your shape you have the pleasure of having wonderful curves, whether slight or very obvious.
Now, once you know your shape and how best to accentuate it, you then have to factor in your lifestyle needs. Do you spend most of your days outdoors, sitting at a desk, or always on the move? Whether you are doing anything that keeps you moving or not, you can find the right outfit. Just remember to “Dress how you want to be addressed.” It's about being sensible and aware of your surroundings. For example, you don’t want to show up overdressed to a sports event and underdressed to the office. Appropriate does not mean boring, its just means you have to put more thought into what people are going to see first. If you’re a professional who spends most of your day at the office, invest in well-tailored pieces that exude confidence and comfort. Conversely, if your lifestyle is more relaxed, look for casual yet chic outfits that are versatile and easy to wear.
Evaluate Your Wardrobe
Before you embark on a shopping spree, evaluate your current wardrobe. Identify the pieces you love and wear frequently. Ask yourself why these items are your favorites. Is it the fit, color, or comfort? Is it flattering? How does it make you feel? Your self-awareness will guide you in selecting new pieces that align with your style preferences.
Seek Inspiration, Not Imitation
When talking about styles that inspire, fashion magazines and social media are brimming with the latest trends. Use them as inspiration rather than blueprints. Look for styles and outfits that resonate with you. Identify what you like about the style, as well as what you don’t like. Knowing what works for you helps to better create a style that is your own. You can create a mood board or Pinterest board to help visualize and curate your favorite looks. Remember to pay attention to recurring themes in your choices, such as color palettes, patterns, and silhouettes. You will begin to see your style stand out with your choices.
Invest in Timeless Pieces
If you haven’t heard in my previous articles the importance of timeless pieces, I am here to say it again. Trends may come and go, but classic pieces never go out of style. Invest in high-quality staples like a well-fitted blazer, a little black dress, tailored trousers, a white button down blouse, and denim pants. These items serve as the foundation of your wardrobe and can be mixed and matched with trendier pieces.
Experiment with Trends Selectively
While it's tempting to dive headfirst into every new trend, approach them with discernment. Choose trends that complement your existing wardrobe and personal style. For example, if bold colors are in vogue but you prefer neutrals, consider incorporating a bold accessory rather than a head-to-toe colorful outfit, such as shoes, a headpiece, or a jewelry piece. Know that you do not have to subscribe to the trends right when it hits the runway. Take your time and determine if you want to invest in the new. Fashion can get pricey.
Prioritize Comfort and Confidence
Above all, your style should make you feel comfortable and confident. If a trend doesn't resonate with you or feels uncomfortable, skip it. Fashion is about expressing yourself, and there's nothing more stylish than feeling good in what you wear. Even when choosing a trend to add to your wardrobe, still choose what is flattering to your body, what is comfortable, and what makes you smile. Your body will never go out of style, so always keep it in mind.
Don't Be Afraid to Stand Out
As you refine your style, don’t shy away from standing out. Embrace the unique aspects of your personality and let them shine through your wardrobe choices. Whether it's a signature accessory, a favorite color, or an unconventional pairing, these personal touches make your style truly yours. Owning your style breeds confidence. And confidence will always stand out and never be ignored.
Consider Professional Help
Last but not least, if you're struggling to define your style, consider enlisting the help of a personal stylist, whether finding one on your own or at various department stores like Nordstrom, or your local boutique. They can provide expert advice tailored to your body type, preferences, and lifestyle. A stylist can also help you navigate trends and curate a wardrobe that reflects your individuality. They will always look out for you.
And on that final note, I think it’s time to land this plane. I think I have started you out with some good tips. So start here. Identifying your style amidst fashion fads is about balance—blending timeless pieces with carefully chosen trends to create a look that is uniquely yours. By understanding your body, evaluating your wardrobe, seeking inspiration, investing in classics, experimenting selectively, prioritizing comfort and confidence, standing out, and considering professional help, you can cultivate a style that is both contemporary and authentically you. Embrace the journey of self-expression through fashion and enjoy the confidence that comes with owning your own personal style.